During the month of September, I taught lessons on the topic of bullying. Bullying is a very popular word that many students use when describing actions of their classmates; however, what we discovered was that many students display "bullying behaviors" but those behaviors don't actually classify as bullying!
Throughout the year, I usually discuss the various R.I.C.H.E.R. principles that are used at CMS and CHS. These stand for Respect, Integrity, Caring, Harmony, Excellence, and Responsibility. The topic of bullying would also cover the topic of respect, because when we are nice to other people, we show them respect.
In every grade K-6, we discussed that for something to be considered bullying, it must be repeated (occur more than one time) and it must be one-sided (mean words/actions only going in one direction). If both people in the situation were saying or doing mean things, it would be two-sided, and therefore is NOT considered bullying! It would be considered a fight/argument/disagreement/problem/conflict.
We follow-up with the bullying lesson in October when we do conflict resolution. So, if there's a situation that you think is bullying but maybe turns out to be a conflict, how can you resolve it on your own? That's what we will talk about next month!
One time when I was browsing Pinterest, I found this great "is it bullying?" poster, and I LOVE the way that it explains different behaviors! Just something to keep in mind.